Beyond the Mirror: Finding Joy and Confidence at any Age

Turning 60 was a pivotal moment for me. When I was younger, I saw aging almost entirely in a negative light. I believed that as my body and face changed, my beauty would slowly fade away. But why did I think that way? Was it society’s obsession with perfection? Did I really believe that the excitement of new experiences was reserved only for my 20s or 30s? Looking back, that was such a narrow and limiting perspective on life’s journey.

I’m a lot like my mother. This year, she turned 90 and I turned 60. We’ve always shared those big, decade-marking birthdays. I still remember when we celebrated her 70th and my 40th together in Paris. One thing my mom once told me has always stuck with me: “I don’t feel like I’m in my 80s. My body may be aging, but my soul isn’t. I still have the same feelings and emotions I’ve always had.”

Think about that for a moment. Our bodies age, but our spirit remains unchanged. I’m not a scientist or an expert on aging, but I believe my mom is onto something important.

Remember when elders were seen as the wise ones in our communities? I’m not sure we value their wisdom as much these days. Do we still seek advice from our grandmothers or that great-uncle with the funny stories about our parents? Or have we replaced those moments with quick Google searches and AI chats? Sure, it’s faster, but can Google really know you the way your family does?

My 90-year-old mother is still sharp. She may process information a bit more slowly, but think about the wealth of experience she’s gathered over 90 years. It’s incredible—she may be nearing the end of her life, but she’s still living it fully.

Here’s my point: If you’re in your 20s, 30s, or 40s, I’m happy to tell you—the best is yet to come. And if you’re in your 50s or beyond, now is the time to live your best life, free from worrying about who has the best purse or the firmest butt.

Embrace every decade. The journey only gets richer.